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A Must See!

Hello there! Long time no see!  I know, I know.  Dial up is no excuse.  I’ll be glad to continue on some of our family happenings here.  First, I want to mention a very important contest that has started today!  I own two of these baby slings and would recommend you check out this contest today to try and win one!  If you have not started baby wearing yet, you are missing out! Lucy falls into a coma when she sits in mine. Love that!  Check out BohoBaby and then post your favorite on the blog below to be eligible to win!

Musings of a Housewife

Not to mention, that my sisterfriend is the one making the slings! Love you Wondergirl!

In the mean time will this picture hold you? Lucy is 6 months old and one of the happiest babies I have ever met!

 

Food For Thought


No. 47: Do Baptists Talk to their Babies?

Protestants have always insisted that the sacraments bring no benefit without a response of faith, but this seems to undermine infant baptism, since infants do not appear to be able to exercise faith. Luther and Calvin held together their insistence on faith with infant baptism by claiming that infants can believe. Baptists see this as the Achilles’ heel of the paedobaptist position, an example of how far paedobaptists have to go to defend an untenable practice.

Is infant faith absurd? As I indicated more fully in my lectures on baptism at the 1996 Biblical Horizons summer conference, our questions about sacraments often result from confusions about two things: grace and symbols. Through much of church history, there has been a tendency (and sometimes more than a tendency) to conceive of grace as some kind of impersonal substance, energy, or power that God delivers to man. Sacraments thus become, as is said even by many Reformed, “channels” by which grace flows to believers. This is just an image, but imagery has a way of shaping theology for good or ill. To call the sacraments “channels” of grace reinforced the mistaken view that grace is an impersonal substance or power. Grace, however, is God’s attitude of favor to sinners, manifested in His personal approach to establish fellowship, to cut or renew a covenant, with His people. There are not four things involved in sacraments (God, grace, sacrament, us) but only three (the gracious God, sacraments, and us). The Jews marveled at the confidence of Peter and John, and saw that it was a result of personal acquaintance and fellowship with Jesus (Acts 4:13). Our transformation has the same cause: We are renewed by personal fellowship encounter with the Lord who has become life-giving Spirit.

And as regards symbols: Frequently, we think of symbols as an addition to real life, as enhancements of the “literal.” In the personalist framework sketched above, however, symbols have a much more basic function in human life. Personal relationships among human beings exist, under normal circumstances, only by means of signs and symbols. Symbols communicate and mediate information and personal presence. We get to know another person by talking (using linguistic signs) and by gestures (handshake, kiss, hug, facial expressions, etc.). The only way for a man’s infatuation with a woman to move out of imagination into a real relationship of love is for the man to make his love “public” by speaking, writing love letters, sending flowers, and so on. Symbolic acts such as these do not picture a relationship that already exists; without the symbols, the personal relationship will not exist at all.

Likewise, our personal relationship with God takes place through mutual use of symbols: God speaks to us in His word, which takes the form of printed symbols on a page or audible sounds that carry meaning. We respond with words of prayer and praise. God “gestures” to us through the water of baptism and by spreading His table; we respond by accepting His invitation and feasting in His presence. The history of sacramental theology can be told as a dialectic between treating sacraments as magical and treating them as “mere symbols.” A personalist framework cuts through the whole debate: Symbols have power, but the power is the power of establishing and maintaining personal, covenanted relationships.

(Despite real differences between language and other symbolic actions, there are fundamental similarities: both speech [or writing] and gestures are physical actions; both uttering significant sounds and performing significant gestures are symbolic in that meanings are encoded within or “inhere” the physical actions. In fact, it is difficult to think of a human physical action in which meaning does not inhere: A pat on the back is different from swatting a fly but swatting a fly says something; speaking is different from belching, but, depending on circumstances, belching can mean either “I enjoyed the meal” or “I’m a mannerless pig.” Generating and deploying symbols is an inescapable human process, an aspect of our being made in the image of the Father who eternally generates His Word, His Image [John 1:1; Hebrew 1:1-3].)

Given this background, we can return to the question of infant faith. Here, “faith” is the human response trust to God in a personal relationship. The question of infant faith is not: “Are infants capable of receiving this jolt of divine power?” The question is: “Can infants respond to other persons? Do infants have personal relations?” And the answer to this question is obviously yes. Infants quickly (even in utero) learn to respond to mother’s voice; infants quickly manifest “trust” of their parents; infants quickly distinguish strangers from members of the family. If infants can trust and distrust human persons, why can’t they trust in God? Behind the denial of infant faith is, apparently, an assumption that God is less available to an infant than other humans. But this is entirely wrong; for no human being is nearer than God. And it is wrong because God’s presence is mediated through His people. When parents say to their newborn, “Jesus loves you and will care for you,” they are speaking God’s promises.

Parents, moreover, establish relationships with their infants through symbols. We talk to our infants, and we show our love through gestures � hugs and kisses. If there is nothing irrational or absurd about humans’ establishing personal relation ship with infants through symbols, there is nothing irrational about God’s doing the same. As we establish loving and trusting relations with our infants through symbols, so God speaks to infants and establishes a relation with them through the “visible word” of baptism. Thus, the question “Should we baptize babies?” is of a piece with the question “Should we talk to babies?” Paedobaptism is neither more nor less odd and miraculous that talking to a newborn. In fact, that is just what paedobaptism is: God speaking in water to a newborn child.

Let me take this a further step. If the child cannot understand what a parent is saying, is it rational for the parent to speak to him or her? Baptist parents as well as others speak to their infants, and do not expect the child to understand or to talk back for many months. They see nothing irrational in this. They speak to their children, that is, they employ symbols, not because they think the infant understands all that is being said or because they expect an immediate response. They speak to their children so that the child will learn to understand and talk back. So too, we baptize babies not because they can fully understand what is happening to them, nor because we expect them to undergo some kind of immediate moral transformation. We baptize them, and consistently remind them of their baptism and its implications, so that they will come to understanding and mature faith.

The sociologically consistent Baptist should, it seems to me, follow the Peekabo Street theory of child training. Peekaboo Street was the American Olympic skier, whose parents, as I recall the story, were so very trendy and liberal that they did not want to “impose” an identity on their little girl, so they allowed her to choose her own name, with obvious results. Karl Barth, who loudly protested the “violence” of imposing a Christian identity on a child through infant baptism, would undoubtedly be pleased. In fact, the Streets were not so liberal after all, for in spite of themselves they apparently did teach Peekaboo to speak English, rather than giving her the freedom to choose a language or make one up on her own. Baptist parents, so far as I know, are not consistent either; they do impose a language and a name on their children, a language and a name that cannot be religiously neutral; they do, in spite of themselves, often treat their children as Christians, teaching them to sing “Jesus loves me” and to pray the Lord’s Prayer. And if they do all this, what reason remains for resisting the imposition of the covenant sign?

I really enjoyed this blog post over at ReformedCatholicism.com.

I found that many of these points resonated with me and where I’m at now in my life. One of life’s strange little paradox’s is the appreciation I have for the Bible College and Seminary that I attended in showing me how ill-equipped these institutions were in preparing me for ministry. I don’t say this to bad mouth the people there - I wouldn’t trade my time there for anything. The friendships and memories made there are worth the time alone. But I noticed during the last year or so there how backwards this education can be. A lot more value was placed on scholasticism than service and mentoring. The majority of men were putting off starting families and having children for school. They’re wives were working full-time jobs to support them. Many of the students had never worked a real job, much less been successful at one. These are some of the things I struggled with. After four years, I felt I had a ton of book knowledge but no life knowledge. I hated that my wife had to work full-time to support me - especially after having Molly. I felt like I was stuck in a community where everyone looked the same, thought the same, and experienced the same things. I watched as a number of young men took ministry positions and failed miserably or took ministry positions “for the experience.” I thought that maybe I was just afraid of failing, or maybe I was afraid that I’d wasted my time only to find out that I wasn’t truly called to the ministry. But then in my readings I ran across two statements that made me really think about what I was doing. The first one was about “calling.” I forget where I read it, but the statement was something to the effect of “your calling is confirmed over many years of service to the church, by the church, despite your repeated attempts at rejecting this calling.” In other words, my calling was not confirmed because one or two people told me I should go to seminary. It wasn’t confirmed because I made National Dean’s List every year I was there. It wasn’t confirmed because that’s what I wanted to do in life. This began to make sense to me when I met two men in their 40’s who had been successful in another career, but had come to seminary because this type of calling had occurred in their lives. What’s funny is I had been a little insecure about being a few years older than the average student, when I really wasn’t old enough to be there in the first place! The second thing I read was in a George MacDonald (I think) book where he made the statement that a requirement of the ministry should be 40 years old and already successful in some other career. Although I believe he was saying this somewhat tongue-in-cheek (somewhat), it made a lot of sense to me. One of the things that I struggled with was how to grow our family, yet still continue pursuing the ministry. After all, it would be almost impossible for Denise to stay home with the children (which is a non-negotiable in my book), and for me to provide for them in a church that I didn’t have to compromise my integrity to serve in (i.e. megachurch). The solution is simple now. I find a career that pays well, has good benefits, and enable me to provide well for my family so that Denise can stay home. I do well in this job, bringing glory to God, building friendships with all different types of people, and gain valuable life and relationship experience while continuing to serve in the church and study on my own (or even more importantly, under my pastor’s watchful eye). When my children are older and if I am called to the pulpit  - or some other ministry - then maybe I pursue it, knowing that I have a nice pension or retirement set aside, so that I am not totally dependent on the church for my well-being. Now, don’t get me wrong, there are certainly some pastors who are an exception to the rule and I never want to make the mistake of being dogmatic or legalistic about such things (after all, I didn’t reject the rampant legalism of one tradition just to latch on to another brand.). But I don’t think it would be a bad thing if 80% of our Bible colleges were disbanded, and the number of seminary students were cut down by about half - mostly from the 20 something group. But more importantly, know that this is mainly how I feel about myself, my family, and my ministerial calling, and that its a blessing to know someone else out there feels the same way.

Aaaaaaarghhhhh!!!!!

Dial Up stinks. Badly. We have oh so many pics for your viewing pleasure, we just don’t have the 25 hours it requires to upload them. Hopefully this will change soon. We’re buying new phones (Verizon) soon and we may purchase this high speed internet thingy (sorry for the technical jargon).

On another note, last night we experienced one of the interesting (?!) joys (?!?!?) that comes with living out in the deep woods. We were awaken by the sounds of gunfire at 3 a.m. this morning - 8 shots in all! After 6 shots, we thought it prudent to dial 911. The operator told us it was probably our neighbors hunting turkeys, but she would send an officer to investigate. I told her that if they caught him, tell Cletus that he probably wouldn’t need 8 shots to nab his bird if he did it in the daylight hours.

10 - eh - C

First things first: Yes, we are still alive. We made the move to Tennessee about 3 weeks ago and we’re settled in. Unfortunately, we live out in the sticks where there is no high-speed internet access. We’re in the process of getting a dial-up account, so we should be back on-line before too long. We also don’t get cable where we live, so we only have 4 broadcast channels… thank God for Netflix! It’s been nice, though. We live in Spring Hill, a little town about 30 minutes south of Nashville. I say little - it’s the fastest growing town in Tennessee. Lots of young families with children, which is nice. It’s a little congested in some areas and the town is a mixture of historic and modern. We live out in the country, though, so we have all the conveniences of the city without the crowds and traffic. Our house sits on 8 beautiful acres and has a porch on 3 sides - which we absolutely love. My favorite thing about Spring Hill is how friendly everyone is… despite living in the country, we already know more of our neighbors here than we did living in a subdivision in Birmingham. The girls love all the wildlife that comes with country life. In fact, we’ve been adopted by two dogs, who chase away all the “evil” deer and squirrels whenever we come home. We’re meeting new people every week and Denise and the girls are getting involved in local activities. We’re attending St. Mark Reformed Church (check my favorite websites), and Denise and Molly are getting involved in a local home-school co-op. Also, we’ve enjoyed spending time with the Szalays, the Brods, and our cousins Mark and Lisa - who live in the area.  So, needless to say, we are very blessed and very busy. I must say, it has been nice not worrying about blogging, but we know ya’ll are anxious to see updates and pics of the girls… which we will have as soon as we get an ISP. Trust me, we have LOTS of pics to share! Today we spent Easter with at Mark and Lisa’s house - I’m using their computer right now - so we can satisfy you with some pics that we took today of the girls in their Easter dresses and hunting for eggs. 

  

Wow.

If you read the previous post by my wife, then you know that our life has been pretty hectic lately. It’s about to get a lot more hectic, but I want to wrap up my series of posts on the Church. Since its been a week or so since the last post, let me begin this post by stating a few points that I’ve made (or tried to make) that will help intoduce my final post (maybe) :)

1) Salvation is not an individual experience - its corporate. This is the point of church… its where salvation is found.

2) Individualism and subjective personal experience have infiltrated and dominated our modern era churches.

3) There are symbols that mark the identity of the church and her relationship to Christ. These symbols are not just powerless signs pointing to some reality… they are the reality. Just as a intimacy is a symbol within a marriage that strengthens the marriage (when done rightly), so the symbols of the church help to strenthen the body.

4) There is room for creativity within the worship service, but there are definate boundaries.

5) The modern era church, for the most part, has neglected these boundaries and formed the church into something that is foreign to Scripture.

6) The Bible not only gives us the proper symbols for the church, but also gives us a proper model for worship.

In a previous post I gave a couple of New Testament verses that described worship in terms of “sacrifice.” I then made the link to the sacrificial system found in the Old Testament. This might seem odd to many of you, and I think there’s a good explanation - one I’ve hinted at already.

How do we normally translate this idea of sacrifice in the New Testament? Well, I submit that we translate it according to our own presuppositions of worship that our tradition has given us. In this case, our American, individualistic, subjective worship experience. We already perceive worship to look like “Exhibit A” so we define terms like “sacrifice” to fit within our system of worship. Therefore, “sacrifice” means giving our all in worship; having that emotional experience where we connect with God - either through powerful music or preaching. Or maybe we don’t even associate sacrifice with worship at all. As I’ve mentioned before, our worship today seems to be a reaction to what Christ has done for us… not a participation. So in that case, sacrifice finds it’s meaning in our daily, individual lives: witnessing to a co-worker, giving up watching the game in order to work in a soup kitchen, getting up an hour early to have quiet time, etc.

This is not the proper way to define biblical terms and concepts. My point here is not to describe the history and intricacies of biblical interpretation, but I do want to point out one basic rule: use scripture to define scripture. For example, if the New Testament uses the word “sacrifice” to describe worship, it is important for us to find out what “sacrifice” means. The best way to do this is to find other uses of “sacrifice” in the Bible.

As a side note, there is a lot to be said about the poor practice of biblical interpretation that occurs in our churches today. For instance, many churches have a low view of the Old Testament. At best they view it as tales of morality, at worst they view it as obsolete. These churches mistakenly view themselves as “New Testament” churches. I say “mistakenly” because their view of the New Testament is in error based upon their Old Testament views. The only way you can interpret - and therefore live - according to the New Testament is with a proper understanding of the Old Testament. At the very least this means that the Old Testament is vital to interpreting the New Testament, and vice versa. I’ll put this another way: It is heresy to believe that the Old Testament has nothing to do with the New Testament, and it is highly erroneous to view the Old Testament as ”LAW” and the New Testament as “GRACE” - as if they were two separate books or Bibles.  

Well, I lied. This post is too long, so I will continue on another post, hopefully tomorrow.

In the following 30 days, our life will dramatically change.  I look forward to seeing why God has ordained us to move from our home here in B’ham and relocate to Nashville, TN.  Why do I say ‘ordained’? Simple, we have fervently prayed as many of you have done as well and He has answered.  Where two or more are gathered, He is among us and hears us!

1. Brian has been hard pressed to get good paying work here. He got a 2nd job- working now about 70hrs/week. We prayed…

2. Among others, Brian applied for and has been offerred a job in TN- a GREAT job, mind you.  He starts 2/29. We prayed…

3. What about our house? We prayed… ummm… are you sitting down?  The first one to look at it, made and offer and we accepted.  The second one to look at it wants it too and is on standby in the event that the first doesn’t work out.  Both deals within $100 of each other and want us out by 2/27. Any idea that God is listening? I think so!

I want to first thank all of you that have prayed with us over this.  We have truly loved living here in B’ham.  We are sad to leave our new friends and church home.  Our long term goal has been to end up in TN so it was a bit of a surprise for the details to work out so soon.  With our God, anything is possible.  He has been so clear to us when it was time for us to know.  We had said at one point that if the only thing holding us back was the issue of selling our home, we couldn’t hold back- even though the market is so crazy.  Any old timers remember what happened when we were getting ready to move to KY?  All the open doors came within about 30 days of us having to leave.  So this past Thursday when we were told of the two contracts coming on our home and the dates, I asked Brian ‘Can you believe this, and the timing?’ He said ‘as a matter of fact, I can!’  I will be packing now.  And then I will be unpacking. :) So if you don’t hear from me for a bit, do not be dismayed. Please continue to pray that things will work smoothly and may we all find comfort in this answered prayer and give God the glory He deserves. 

Tag, you’re it!

A friend tagged me just as I had been reading about these and wondering how it works.  Here goes nothin’ 

1. How do you take your coffee? I’m not too picky here…unfortunately I will drink the leftovers the next a.m. to avoid ‘wasting’. Please don’t boo. I won’t serve it to you!  I like about an inch of cream with some kind of nutty flavoring and then pour in the hot stuff. I go back and forth about this being a crutch in the mornings for me!

2. What is your restaurant genre of choice?  Italian

3. If you had to eat the entire cake, what kind would it have to be? New one now! The C.Mansfield chocolate lovers cake! Better than a brownie!

4. What kind of cook do you consider yourself to be (i.e. gourmet)? Creative, when I have time.  I am a Martha Stewart/Food Network junkie.  Although, my favorite is when I find a recipe that uses up things that have been sitting in the cabinet at allRecipes.com

5. Eggs for breakfast? Yes and for supper occasionally.

6. Are you an adventurous eater? I would think so, Yes.

7. Would you consider yourself a food snob? Nah, although when I am creating a meal I am particular about the presentation.  I can appreciate it when someone else goes through the trouble.

Now it’s your turn: DeeDee, Laura Sue, Michelle, and Erin

A couple of posts ago, I made the analogy that a Christian’s relationship to Christ is like a marriage - the symbols of the relationship actually fortify the relationship. Using this marriage analogy, I want to compare and contrast the typical individualistic view of Christianity with what I believe to be the biblical view.

First, I think its important to look at the “defining moment.” Obviously for a marriage that would be the wedding. This is the ceremony where two are declared one. Where a Mr. and a Miss become Mr. and Mrs. But what is the defining moment of our relationship to Christ. Many would say its our conversion experience… but I think this is wrong. Our “conversion experience” is too subjective… it’s like saying a marriage began “when I first saw her face…. ahhh.” Besides, what is a conversion experience anyways? And for that matter, which one (I know I’ve had a few in my life)? No, the Bible teaches us to look to a particular objective event for our identity. Just as a wedding gives you you’re husband/wife identity, baptism gives you your Christian identity.

But this is not it. While baptism is the moment/ceremony that we are to look back upon for our identity in Christ, it is also true that this would mean nothing if we weren’t united to Christ in our daily lives. In other words, a marriage has meaning because of a wedding ceremony, but also because a husband and wife form a relationship… a covenant. It could hardly be called a marriage if they never saw each other, talked to each other, touched each other, or listened to each other. The actual covenant relationship is what defines the marriage. The daily symbolic acts that strengthen the relationship. It’s the same way in our relationship with Christ. Our baptism into Christ is only part of it. We have the name “Christian,” but it wouldn’t mean much if the relationship wasn’t cultivated on a regular basis. But what does this look like?

In a marriage the symbols are pretty similar, although God gives us a lot of freedom to be creative with these symbols. For instance, kissing is a symbol. But it may be a long passionate kiss after a romantic dinner, or it may be a quick peck on the cheek before leaving for work. Another symbol is a wedding band. As any guy can attest to, you can go crazy trying to pick out the right color, clarity, and cut for the perfect ring. But there are boundaries. Symbolically, the ring goes on the ring finger of the left hand. And kissing another woman does not strengthen your marriage. OK, so maybe my analogies are starting to break down at this point… but you get the idea. The point is that there are designated symbols in our Christian life - with room for creativity, but with definite boundaries.

As far as Christianity goes, though, it seems as if the emphasis has been on the creative side with the boundaries becoming neglected. I think this is due to the focus on individualism that I spoke of earlier. Think about it - if entrance into a relationship with Christ is deemed to be a “conversion experience,” and the cultivation of this relationship is seen as an individual journey, then it’s only natural that the church has transformed into a service of man-made symbols: bowing our heads and closing our eyes in solemn prayer, emotionally driven pop-songs, motivational speeches, walking an aisle, saying a sinner’s prayer, etc… while at the same time neglecting the biblically ordained symbols of our relationship with Christ: confession, baptism, communion, preaching of the Word, reading of Scriptures, singing of the Psalms, uplifting corporate prayer, etc.

So now the question might be “where in the Bible are these biblically ordained symbols of worship” and “what would a church service look like with these symbols?” Well hopefully I’ll get around to answering that in my next post, but until then I would direct you to this post.

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